Translating the Unspoken Words

The personalities of Sarah, Chloe, and Lucy represent the three Centres.  Chloe is a Type Two (Heart Centre), Lucy is a Type Five (Head Centre), and Sarah is a Type Eight (Gut Centre).

Chloe immediately realised that her teacher was not herself.  Twos are very sensitive to the emotions of others.  This is part of their strategy, which is to relieve their feelings of inadequacy by helping people.  Although they enjoy helping in itself, their NEED to help is to get the reassurance they crave.  Unfortunately her teacher Kate did not realise why she suddenly began straightening books.  To Kate it may have looked like a delaying tactic or even like a deliberate provocative disobedient act.  A more constructive response from Kate might have been, “Thanks Chloe, but we really need to get on with the work I have set now.”  Chloe would have felt her kind gesture noticed and appreciated, and it would have taken less time to say this than to say what Kate actually did say.  In addition, the other students may well have realised that Chloe was trying to help:  spurning the help would raise the stress levels in the whole class as well as in Chloe and even in Kate herself.

Chloe’s unwanted helpfulness was Chloe’s strategy for putting things right with a teacher who she actually rather liked.  The fact that Kate is not recognising this means that the situation could spiral downhill.  When the Two becomes stressed s/he moves towards the personality of the Eight.  The Eight is preoccupied by power and fairness.  Chloe will feel that Kate is abusing her power by spurning her offers of what she considers reconciliation, and may even flip into disliking Kate intensely for her ‘unfairness’.

Sarah is an Eight.  As she watches the scenario unfold it is precisely those issues of power and fairness which are uppermost in her mind, as anger at an unfair world is part of her personality’s driver.  She feels that Kate is not exercising her power fairly and so loses respect for her instantly.  Eights can be very black and white in this respect.  She also has always rather liked Kate, so she does not openly challenge her (many Eights would in these circumstances) but instead does the minimum necessary to follow Kate’s directions.  If Kate does not address the rift that has occurred between her and these girls fairly soon then Sarah may decide there is a power vacuum and she could become very challenging.  If Kate meets this challenge ‘head to head’ then it could push Sarah into her stress point of Five.  At this point she might cease any guise of being cooperative (passive aggression) and instead put her energies into mulling over classroom dynamics.

Lucy is a Five.  She was mortified to ‘be told off by the teacher’, and to find herself the centre of the class’s attention.  Fear of unpleasantness is a very real issue for Fives and they deal with it by trying to disappear whilst being acutely aware of what is going on around them.  Lucy would like nothing more than to disappear.  She is now rather nervous of Kate, and this stress brings about a movement towards the personality of the Seven.  Sevens also feel this fear, but they deal with it by blocking it out with ‘nice’ things.  Lucy is nervous of being told off, but paradoxically this makes her more chatty because she is trying to relax by chatting with friends.  Part of the strategy of Fives is collecting information, so Kate might be able to defuse the awkwardness that has arisen between her and Lucy by saying some encouraging things about Lucy’s work.  Telling her off in public for chatting is likely to make it worse.

>  The Type Two Student

>  The Type Five Student

>  The Type Eight Student

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